The Importance of Practice

Jenn Freed, LCSW

We can all identify ways in which we want to change or show up differently in our lives and daily routines. Maybe it’s around eating habits, physical activity, setting boundaries with loved ones, or reading more books. If only I could (fill in the blank), then I would feel/be (fill in the blank). Comparison thoughts or beliefs that we are not that ‘type’ of person can creep in. For example, I’m not the type of person that can eat healthily, tell my mom no when I feel overwhelmed, etc. When we believe these thoughts, it can lead to negative and harmful self-talk about who we are and who we are not. This can conflict with the ability to do the behavior that we seek.

When we think about change or growth, go back to basics. Imagine you’re a child learning a new skill for the first time and adopting a beginner’s mindset. Remind yourself that you’re practicing and teaching yourself something new. Even if you have done said goal before, maybe you are in a new stage of life or things have changed. Reframe your goal into something smaller and achievable and build on it once you’ve accomplished it several times. For example, if you want to start meditating daily, begin by meditating twice a week. After sticking to that for a couple of weeks, add another day, and so on and so forth. Allow your approach to flow as you learn about how it fits into your life.

If you don’t do what you’ve set out to do, that’s ok! You are practicing. Be intentional with how you treat yourself regarding this new goal. It’s difficult to build new habits and unlearn behaviors. Remember that you’re human and there’s room for breaks, opting out when you need to rest, or when you don’t have the energy. Being accountable is essential yet caring for yourself throughout the process is just as important!