Ronni Umles, MHC

Much of my work, both with clients and in my personal healing, is geared toward confronting truths. In this context, I am referring to internal truths – what we absorb from early development to adulthood. Internal truths are a complicated mixture of our experiences, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors that inform our capacity to trust, feel safe, maintain relationships, and so on. A truth is believed to be rooted in the core of our being, down in the depths of our ego.

The ego is a relentless feature of our minds. I like to refer to it as the “ego show” that guides the narrative of our “I,” our identity, or who we believe we are and what we bring to the world. Our narratives are the stories we create about ourselves, and they come from a subconscious place. Chronic victimhood for instance is a debilitating mindset that follows a combination of themes stemming from core emotions like feeling unlovable or unworthy. Internal self-talk can be full of judgement. Many wonder “why am I like this, why is this happening, why can’t I change?” The cause is often important to bring clarity and validation to one’s narrative or identity. Perhaps they were brought up in an abusive household, had neglectful caregivers, were bullied, or received negative reinforcement at various angles of their lives. Bringing the unconscious narrative forward is likely to induce a range of new feelings such as blame, anger, frustration, or resentment.

All these feelings need to be felt, otherwise we may find ourselves stuck in negative feedback loops. When we find a means to move through them, we initiate change and create space for positive fulfillment. As a spiritually inclined practitioner, I aim to bring an intertwined outlook of how both the physiological and metaphysical aspects of our narratives play a role in our truths. A combined approach that incorporates our nervous system and emotional bodies in addition to altered states of consciousness and spiritual experiences. The roles we play like the one of the chronic “victim” may be a pervasive role that also goes well beyond this lifetime, potentially showing up as unfinished business from a past life, generational trauma patterns, sensitivity to otherworldly experiences. There is much to explore in the realm of the metaphysical that opens pathways for healing, empathy, compassion, and a deeper connection to our natural world.

Curiosity is a main ingredient to this method. I invite you to ask yourself, how can I bring curiosity to my life’s path, my narrative, my identity? Is there an opportunity within self-inquiry to invite another perspective?

In between it all, there is often pain within our truths, of how we came to be. I cannot deny you of this fact. Accepting responsibility, however, for where we are in our lives offers an opportunity to redirect our focus towards healing, evolving, and living with meaning and intent.

I wish you well on this journey. Peace within.